"He would get upset at me for saying, ' Hi,' to my guy friends on the street."You may feel belittled.Many victims of abuse may feel put down or belittled by their partners, who may humiliate them or minimize their accomplishments.It's not uncommon for survivors of abuse to return to their abusers—something the narrator did."Much to my regret, I did end up going back to him a few months later," she said.One woman, who experienced dating abuse from a former partner, told her story—sharing the things she learned throughout her abusive relationship and what she knows now that it's ended. The narrator began the video by saying, "I always imagined the story of my first love would be a magical one, not a cautionary tale." Her relationship began like any other: She was charmed by a handsome guy, they went on a romantic date in the park, and things developed from there.
And when her friend arrived to pick her up, he followed through on his threat attempted to kill himself (the police arrived in time to save him).One of the telltale signs of dating abuse is one partner keeping the other from seeing friends and family—something the narrator experienced in her relationship."I slowly stopped hanging out with my friends," she said before describing instances of her boyfriend breaking her phone so she couldn't talk to other people."The first time he hit me, I was convinced that it was my fault," she said.Because she was always "letting her boyfriend down," she felt like the abuse was her fault—if she did something different and changed her behavior to make him happier, it would stop.
Though she, like many others, didn't anticipate this pattern of abusive behavior from her partner, dating abuse is more common than some may realize.