Do Not complain when your (insert holiday here) date gets cancelled because a show has been scheduled. They are the one’s buying the CDs and merch, not you, so let them have their time. Like your going to sleep in the back of a van and eat ramen for 4 months straight!? Do not get jealous when your boyfriend talks to groupies. Babies don’t make men quit bands….especially if you were a groupie. No, the band does not want you to go on tour with them. We all need a passion and an opportunity to indulge in it.Here’s a fact: personal freedom and supportive encouragement make people happy. ***It’s NOT mandatory that you are at every show.*** 5. You’re lucky he is using the quarter to call you, instead of buying gas or food. Never say anything negative about your man’s band that you cannot say to him. Don’t follow him around at shows like a lost puppy, he is taking care of business, find your own crowd. Going from preppy to Nu to hardcore shows you are not your own individual. If he calls while out on the road, don’t complain about when he is coming home. If you’re a stripper, keep work on the pole, not at shows. Relationship problems can be dealt with after the show. If they have a show out of town, don’t drive just so you and your boy can have “alone time”. And it’s normal to have practice more than once a week. Do not assume everyone loves your boyfriend’s band. Don’t make out with other band members girlfriends at the bar. The shirt is fine, but must you break out the hat, the hoodie, AND the stickers on your ass? No rumpshaka dances during the show, that is unless your man is in 2 Live Crew. Do not change your style based on the type of band you date. Never cause a fight right before your man goes on stage. Don’t buy your man a new intrument so he and his band mates can match.
That’s the kind of person he or she is, and that behavior will exist in various forms on off the road.If you are attending a sound check as an event, turn back now. Most likely, you’re really cool and a great person to hang out with for days on end which is why our bandmate is dating you. And do you really want to be trapped in a van with a bunch of people who haven’t showered and who keep cracking the window because they farted after eating dinner at a gas station? You don’t Do not, under any circumstances, except for certain circumstances, discourage your partner from being in their band.Not only is it, again, distracting for the band, but it’s, again, boring for you to hear each individual drum head hit over and over and over. I’ve been dragged to enough sound checks to know that the only one I should ever be at is my own. But the thing is, there are already too many people in the van. Think about this for a minute: do you really want the four of us to stand over your shoulder at your job where you’ve convinced your coworkers that you are a professional, upstanding member of society? If we told you you’re not allowed to watch football or garden or make films or build tiny ships in bottles or work out at the gym or do whatever it is you like to do, you would probably be super bummed.Being a Supportive Girlfriend Developing the Relationship Taking Care of Yourself Community Q&A Dating a musician, regardless of gender, is not always easy.In fact, the life of a musician can make relationships hard.